Have you ever thought of using Tarot as your GPS to happiness? I hadn’t until I listened to episode 15 of the Biddy Tarot Podcast. Usually, in a Tarot reading, you know where you want to end up. “How can I manifest the perfect job for me?” “What can I do to make my work more harmonious?” “How can I achieve a better relationship with my teen daughter?”

But what if you don’t know where you want to go? Well, just like a GPS, Tarot doesn’t work well if you don’t have an idea of where you want to end up. Questions such as “Will I get married?” “Is he cheating on me?” take you absolutely nowhere in Tarot. Let’s look at the reasons why.

Relinquishing Personal Control

When you ask a question such as “Will I get married?” you are relinquishing all control over your future. What if the cards say no, but you do end up getting married? Or what if the thought that you will never get married means you turn down the person who could be your perfect mate? What if they say yes, you get married and it is a disaster? Or it takes 20 years for you to get married?

Asking a yes or no question to the Tarot is like asking “will I get to Seattle?” to a GPS. Uh, maybe? Do you want to go there? Maybe there is an ice storm in Seattle today and going there would be awful. The GPS can’t make decisions for you, it can only guide you where you want to go, just like the Tarot cards. A far better question is “What can I do to manifest the best life partner for myself?” This is like asking a GPS “what is the best route to the Space Needle?”

Does the Question Matter?

“Is my partner cheating on me?” Think about whether this the most important question you could be asking? Can cheating really be the main issue? What if the answer is yes? What if it is no? This type of question is not as important as why you are asking it. Suspecting someone of infidelity means that your relationship isn’t in a good place. Wouldn’t it be better to know exactly the current state of your relationship? What blockages and advice the Tarot can offer you? The first question does not help you make a decision or make your life better in any way, even if the answer is no. It is like asking a GPS “Is Seattle to the East of me?” Does it matter if the answer is yes or no?  You really just want to plan a nice drive to the Zoo for the day and knowing if I5 is blocked would be nice.

Clients almost always come to me with questions like this, questions that aren’t really what they want to know. I get a version of the “is my partner cheating on me” question every single week. The conversation goes something like this:

“Why? How does it matter to you?”

“Well obviously, she’s my wife and if she’s cheating on me I need to know.”

“Why? How does it affect you?”

“I need to know because I think my marriage is falling apart.”

“So what you really want to know is the current state of your marriage?”

“I guess so.”

Using Tarot as a GPS

A good Tarot reader will help you identify the issue at hand by asking you questions. Sometimes lots of questions. If you answer them honestly you are going to receive a reading that is actually useful to you. Here is another example of how rephrasing a question resulted in a reading that gave the client actions he could take.

The client said that their spouse had moved out with their children and they wanted to know if the spouse would come back or still loved them.

“How is it important whether your spouse moves back or not? Or whether they still love you?”

“Well, I need to know if this is the end.”

“How is it important to know if this is the end?”

“Well, I need closure. I need to plan ahead and figure out what to do.”

“So I’m hearing that you want to know the current status of your relationship with your spouse, what blockages are there, and where the current path is leading the relationship?”

“Yes.”

You can do this in your own head before you ask for a reading, or ask me to assist you. The result will be a roadmap that includes any problems you may have so you can work to remove them, work around them, or just plow over them to get to the place you really want to be.